Fodder For Thought – Learning Your Man
Wednesday, April 29th, 2009 at
Sunday my husband decided to help me get the kids some food during our weekly common meal after church, which includes a range of delicious foods to choose from. Ryan has watched me get food for 4 people at once many times and was more than willing to try it himself. So, before I could stop him he made his way through the line and got food for our 5, 4, and 23 month old boys.
He got them spaghetti. In their nice church clothes. Spaghetti.
I could have said something before he actually gave them their plates. If it were me I would have wanted him to say something to me to prevent disaster. But, I have learned my husband better than that. I didn’t think he would want me to direct him in this area even though years of practice has taught me how to do the job better.
So, I just let him do his thing. It didn’t take but about 5 minutes for him to come to the conclusion that spaghetti wasn’t the best idea and that he should just let me get their food from then on.
I have learned from my husband, by simply asking him, that men typically don’t want us to school them. They usually prefer that we step back and let them do things their way, mistakes and all. Yes, there are a few exceptions and my husband and I have discussed this so I know what they are. Still, the majority of the time he just wants to do it himself; and to be a good helper, as God has called me to be, I must step back even when I know it is me who will be doing the cleaning up.
It can be hard. Like Sunday and the spaghetti. I knew what we were in for when I saw him carrying it out on the plates. But I also knew that it would benefit all of us in the end if I just let him do it.
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